polyamory in the RedEye, autoerotic asphyxiation and more!

1. Poly wanna what? Reshaping the debate on polyamory

   The cover story of today's RedEye is all about polyamory. Other articles include a glossary of poly lingo and a resource guide for Chicagoans on, among other things, where poly peeps go to sing karaoke:The PolyChi Yahoo! Group, founded in the late '90s, has more than 1,000 members and hosts...

2. Can't bi me love: Can David Carradine's death teach us about safe autoerotic asphyxiation?

   I'm really interested in exploring breath play by myself, but I'm really scared of ending up dead alone in the middle of rubbing one out. What's the best way to get into this kind of stuff without ending up in a coffin?~Breathless in ChicagoDear Breathless in Chicago,That was going to...

3. L'amour Couture and other sexy Chicago events

   Why waste your time at the Taste of Randolph Street, when you can sip cocktails, eat cupcakes and watch beautiful women model vintage garters, head pieces and riding crops? This Saturday, June 20th, is the launch of L'amour Couture. Michelle L'amour and Love, Lulu Mae have come together to create...

4. Dating advice gone wrong

   Erin Bradley, advice columnist extraordinaire at Nerve, calls out some of the worst advice columns in a new weekly series. Below is an excerpt from Veronica Vixen at Lowrider Magazine, which is, I'm finding, so much more than pictures of boobs and cars! The Dilemma: Robert's girlfriend goes all Twilight...

cheater news - harmless? pointless? justice?

A look at the website, Cheater News, where people can anonymously post revenge stories, insults and grooming tips for those they have been wronged by. Favorite quote:

Back in late Dec. 2005, I left Laura M. Why? Laura is the P@ssy trap

And someone even uses the "you have a stick in your butt that makes you walk funny" insult. Read the whole thing here.

Holly Hughes preaches to the perverted at Northwestern

Check out a review of Holly Hughes' performance, courtesy of Ammie:

Back when I was a babydyke and still in the "everything queer is automatically awesome" stage, I bought my then-girlfriend a copy of Holly Hughes' Clit Notes: A Sapphic Sampler, which is a collection of the lesbian performance artist's early work. Other than that I enjoyed it, all I remember is thinking that The Well of Horniness was one of the best play titles I'd ever heard; most of the draw of the book in general came from its titles, really. "Clit?" I thought. "Count me in!"

Read the rest here.

civil unions and anal sex limericks. what?

New Sex and the Windy City posts!

Can't bi me love: being anal about pregnancy i had sex my girl friend in her ass and sperm out in her ass so is there any chance of pregnancy. please inform urgently.~scaredIt is far too early for me to be deciphering your erotic poetry, Scared, but I am willing to venture a guess that you are asking...

Wednesgay news: Illinois Civil Unions FAIL Frankly, I am Illinoyed. Last week, hundreds of Chicagoans marched in protest of Prop 8 in California for upholding the gay marriage ban instituted in November. Then, as of Sunday, once again the Illinois Civil Unions Bill was not passed in the General Assembly. This is not the first time...

Survey: Bottoms-up Chicago Awesomely fagtastic blog, TheSword, recently published an article on which cities have the most tops and bottoms, based on a survey of Craigslist M4M ads. Who comes out on top, and by that I mean bottom? Houston, do we have a problem?The fact that Houston has 73% Bottoms is slightly...

Let's talk about sex (baby) One thing I often bemoan to my weekly pre-teen Bible study group is that there just aren't enough places to dish about sex in Chicago. That and how dry the sex scenes are in the Good Book. (Ed note: Kidding. I've never actually read the Bible and so cannot attest...

Can't bi me love: when to call for a second date? Hey Anna, So this girl I went out with on a successful first date two days ago is now hounding me to know if I want to go out again. I think I probably do, but am busy and want the ability to not answer for a few days, which feels...

The low down and go down on Online Booty Call Hook up sites are part of a growing trend of websites that allow us to forgo the pretense of "dating" and go right to fluid exchange, thus eliminating, well, pretty much all social interaction that goes with being human, I guess. A PR rep from Onlinebootycall.com contacted me a...

you down with OBC? (yeah you know me)

The PR peep from onlinebootycall.com reached out to me recently to interview the president of the site. Apparently Chicago is ranked 5th for online hook ups. Kileen, Texas is #6. Really? Though I suppose the song "All my exes live in Texas" was perhaps written for just such a reason. Especially since Houston is #2. I haven't actually looked at the site yet b/c I'm too often on my work computer and don't cock shots seem inevitable on such a website?

Anyhoodle, I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions for questions to ask in this interview. So far, all I have is, "So this is an NSA interview, right?" which has continued to crack ME up for four days running! But, really, what would YOU want to know about such a site?

Why it exists? Why it's better/worse than Craigslist?
Are there really MORE casual hook ups, or is it just more readily available now that we have the internet?
Would you join? why/why not?

Any suggestions are appreciated.

A R.I.M. Job: Restore Integrity to Marriage

via: Shoot the Messenger

"The apocalyptic consequences of same-sex marriage are too terrifying to imagine. But you can help. Join the Brownbow Coalition. United by our shared intolerance, we will Restore Integrity to Marriage."

WriterBabe Interview

The amazing Raven Moore, who runs a website called The WriterBabe Series: a blog for the professionally curious, interviewed me recently about sex, freelance writing and Mario Lopez. We met years ago, humorously enough, at a Singles Night sponsored by the Chicago Reader, even though we weren't members and nearly everyone there was easily 40 years old.

Anyhoo, check out the interview here.